Know Thy Pal

Hello Reader :)

Welcome back. Thank you so much for being on my page. This post is to give you an insight into a friend or who was a friend. Read it and learn it.

I had these thoughts in my mind for a longer period of time and decided to pen it down. So, here it is. Few things I would like to share which I have observed in my experience with friends when I moved to a new place. I decided to share because I strongly feel that you will be able to connect with me in one of the following points that I have mentioned. If you haven’t experienced it then, my friend please be prepared for the near future :)

Let me get directly into the topic as we do not need an introduction to who is a friend? If you would like to know more about friendship then I suggest you to go on and read an article on Friendship by clicking on the link below.

 https://itsmythoughtstrain.blogspot.com/2019/05/hello-reader-its-my-second-post-on-my.html.

Why Friendship Breaks?

• I have noticed that friends will drift away when you limit yourself. For example, if you are a person who enjoys talking, laughing loud and enjoy social gathering and suddenly one day you make up your mind to upgrade your skills and spend most of your time indoors by limiting people contact, and later you notice that people are having presuppositions about the change in the way of your life. They will limit their conversation with you and do not share gossip nor show that friendly talk anymore. The saddest part is that they agree with one’s perspective in the clique and they don’t even bother to ask you about what you were up to in life. Even if they ask they have their own doubts and you worry about it. Isn't that so true?

• This one is the most important one. Your friendship will be dangling if you do not notice that your pal is uncomfortable when you are talking to someone new in your regional language in his/her presence. I have personally experienced it ;). The sooner you notice the better it is. It is very much essential to involve all your friends in your conversation for a simple reason that he or she is your good friend. At times we do take our friends for granted and we get immersed in our comfort zone, which will cause turbulence later and that's bad. So fix it now.

• Third one is mostly ignored unknowingly though. Always listen to your friend when he or she is talking without, interrupting. Lending your ears while another person is talking is the best way to show respect. It’s okay to wait for a bit longer time for your turn to talk. This will strengthen your relationship with the other person. People like to be with someone who listens to them without being judged. This way you are reinforcing their positive mindset. Here, you are being empathetic with or without your knowledge and that is very much essential in all forms of relationship.

• Fourth one, communication is the best way to bind any broken relationship. This might be clichéd but trust me it is the most substantial one in any kind of relationships. Keep all the presumptions away and ask your friend what went wrong. This positively proves that you are non-judgemental towards your friend. Accepting as the person is, happens only in pure friendship and not in any other relationships. I am certain that in any form of relationships there is always an adjustment and compromises, which is a conduit to maintain a healthy relationship. If you don't want to lose that good friend of yours then keep that Ego away and Go, Talk!

• In fifth, if your friend is not comfortable with some other person with whom you have no hostility, it is necessary to take good care of not talking to that person in the presence of your dear friend. When he or she is around, you need to take initiative in giving that comfort to your friend in your body language and being physically present next to your friend. Otherwise, the path is set to part ways. You will also notice mild changes in your pal's behaviour.

• Sixth, it is a shame that if you have a relationship with someone who has been inhuman or insulted and disrespected your friend. Your friendship will never be true thereon. If you realise that your friend is no wrong and does not deserve to be ill-treated then be wise. Some of us might contradict this view of mine but it’s my strong opinion that it is so true that your friend will be much hurt than the pain caused by the other person for letting down when needed.

• This is the most fatal one. Always hold that Trust of your friend. Once it’s broken it’s broken forever. It’s just like how many ever times you try to make straight the crumpled paper will have creases. Being just is very crucial in friendship. To put it in a philosophical manner, it’s okay if your friend breaks your trust because no one is perfect. You need to forgive and move on. But the relationship won’t be like before anymore.

A Meaningful one -

I found this interesting one in social media.

"6+3=9 But so does 5+4. The way you do things isn't always the only way to do them. Respect other people's way of thinking."

I mean to say that these are not the only ways to solve a problem in friendship. There are many other ways which you will discover if you give a thought to it.

Things to be remembered (Bond with a friend)

1. Do not name call your friend if he/she is uncomfortable. Respect their feelings. Sometimes your friend is okay with the nickname but may not prefer you calling with a nickname in the presence of others.
2. Stand by your friend if he or she is getting defeating in any form. For example, It can be a conversation with another person, a show that did not go well or lack of support from the family etc.
3. Possessiveness will ruin your relationship with your friend. Allow your friend to expand his/her peer circle. This will enhance your bond with your friend. Remember your friend is not your property.
4. Do not take your friend for granted. Know thy pal properly before you take any decision so, that you can avoid an embarrassing situation. To give my own example, we planned a surprized destination birthday celebration to our dear friend that turned out to be a disappointment to the birthday baby because our friend wanted to celebrate amidst children and other staffs at the workplace. It was a learning experience for all of us.

Some people you should just LET GO!

You need to give that personal space to your friend. It means that you do not compel your friend to do anything that they do not like. If you have experienced many bad moments in friendship then you are not alone. Every other person would have experienced this phase of life. Apparently, nobody is apt including you and I. Dwelling in the negative thoughts is no help because this life is short and precious, therefore, Make LIFE beautiful by living every moment. 

Friends are part of your life and they are not your life. So, Value every relationship and learn from every form of relationships.

If you have read till the end then you are able to connect to me in some way. Thank you so much for reading my article. Hoping to see you in my next writing. Until then STAY SAFE & STAY ALIVE!

Much Love

Sangeetha :)